What spiritual direction is. Walking life's journey with God.
Spiritual direction is two people listening together to the Holy Spirit. It is a unique relationship where one person accompanies another person on their spiritual journey toward ever greater attunement, openness and responsiveness to God's presence and love.
Spiritual direction is concerned with spiritual growth, spiritual healing, and spiritual transformation. A spiritual director listens contemplatively and compassionately to you and the Holy Spirit and facilitates your growing friendship with God. Ultimately the focus is on deepening your intimacy with Jesus.
“In spiritual direction we help people notice the signposts on their spiritual journeys, and make choices at a crossroads. We sit with them, tending the campfire when they are stuck; we celebrate when 'arrivals' of some sort offer a chance of rest and refreshment, and encourage them when God interrupts their complacency and invites them out on the road again.”
~ Sue Pickering, Spiritual Direction
What spiritual direction is not.
Spiritual direction is not a program, it is not a “process,” nor is it a checklist or system of advice. In simple terms, spiritual direction is time spent intentionally with God. A spiritual director is not an expert or religious authority. In their book The Practice of Spiritual Direction, Barry and Connolly express it well:
Spiritual Direction is a helping relationship, but the help offered is more like that of a companion on a journey than of an expert who, before the journey begins, advises what roads to take and answers the travelers questions. The companion tries to help the traveler read the maps, avoid dead ends, and what out for potholes.
Spiritual direction is distinct from counseling or therapy, and it is neither discipleship nor pastoral care. Though it may at times have many similarities to these other valuable endeavors.
Frequently asked questions.
What, why, and how?
When might you seek out a spiritual director?
- When you feel “disconnected” from God, or when your relationship to him feels “distant.”
- When you are questioning God's existence, plan, or love.
- When you are trying to discern God’s call or plan for you.
- When you are heading out on a new path of growth.
- When you need to be heard by a compassionate and objective listener.
- When you need wisdom.
What kinds of things will you learn in spiritual direction?
- New ways to pray.
- New practices for reading the bible.
- New spiritual disciplines.
- How to slow down so that you can consent to and engage with solitude, silence, and stillness.
- How to face your false self and move toward your true self as designed by God.
- Interior reflection and healing guided by the Holy Spirit.
How does it work?
We recommend you meet once or twice per month, but you may adjust that as you feel necessary. There is no required duration and some people find that only a few meetings are helpful. Yet, as is fitting for a spiritual journey, you should be open to this being a long-term relationship. Many spiritual directees continue with direction for 1-2 years or more.
Who can be a directee?
Anyone who is seeking to grow in their relationship with the triune God of the bible. There is no other criteria beyond a desire to know God the father through his son Jesus in the love of the Holy Spirit.
How much does it cost?
An initial hour-long consultation is completely free. After that each hour-long session is charged on a sliding-scale. $60 is our recommended fee.
What if I can't afford it?
We recognize that for some people, often those most in need of spiritual direction, cost is prohibitive. We desire that no one should be denied spiritual direction because of cost. Whenever possible we seek to make reasonable accommodations. Please discuss your need with your spiritual director during your consultation, due to the generosity of many donors and other spiritual directees who choose to "pay it forward" we may be able to offer financial assistance.
What about privacy?
Your privacy is of utmost importance. You have a right to expect confidentiality of the information you share with your spiritual director. We commit to holding our conversations in the strictest confidence.
As part of their practice, your spiritual director may consult their own spiritual director regarding their work together. This is intended solely to provide additional perspective when necessary. At all times your identity will be held in confidence.
In some rare instances we are compelled to report or disclose information without your consent or authorization. These include expressions of interest to commit suicide or homicide, and abuse of a minor or the elderly.